EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[NikB]

Oldtimer – you make some great points, thank you. I like your approach on the STD question/issue and have added it to my list of stuff I’m ‘practicing’ to say so I don’t forget or say it wrong. I know that seems silly but I fold under pressure big time and I have to be ready.

I hadn't thought about staying behind making it harder in terms of waiting for H to “come home.” Hmm, will have to think on that more. The sorting and stuff I think would actually be good for me. For some strange reason I find that kind of therapeutic. I’ve always been a BAD packrat and so have my parents. I just recently went through something like 25 boxes of stuff of mine they had “saved” for me and gave me when they D’d. Got it down to 2 very organized boxes - yay! It's one of my "old me" things that I am quite excited to be changing.

About the debt - right now we don’t have any debt besides the house and my car. H has always been pretty debt-averse so I don’t THINK he’ll run up a bunch of debt and I know I won’t – but especially if it’s MLC I guess there’s no way to know for sure. I’ll throw it out there in MC and see what happens. I wonder if there's a legal way to protect ourselves on this - sort of a "prenup" before the S?? Probably not but I will check.

Hey I just thought of something – aren’t you the one who wrote the “clingy coworker” post? I LOVE that post. I printed it out earlier this week to help remind myself to detach and work on letting the H-W R go. I’m not there yet, but working on it and I really like that analogy.