EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Last night he called me at work again (again, rare thing!) to see if I wanted to try and go to the big tree lighting downtown. I’ve wanted to go for YEARS and he’s never wanted to go. We realized it was too late and we’d already missed it so he asked me to come home as soon as I could, so we could set up the tree and have our own tree lighting (awwww!!!). I came home and he’d already built a fire and had started on the tree. It was hard not to think “these aren’t the actions of a man who wants to leave!” but I stopped that thought, enjoyed the moment for what it was, and we had a pretty good time decorating.

That is soooo cool!!! I wish my H would do that. I did ask him if we (us and the kids) could go to some xmas concert thing (he never ever wants to go to things like this) and he said "sure, that'll be fun." in a somewhat sarcastic tone, but at least he said he would go! Although after that, he said he's making plans to go out with his friends on Sat. that totally figures! no wonder he said "yes" huh? I need to quit it.

anyways, about you, You know, maybe you just accepting the fact that he might S, will be helpful in itself. It would almost be a relief of pressure for him I think. And what he did about the lights, is just so sweet! You just keep enjoying the moments and don't have any expectations.


Also, he did say he would still like to date you! I'm almost positive he is questioning himself whether or not to do the S. And, if he does finally do it? Don't act like it's a big deal at all. Just act like it's nothing. If your concerned about him helping you financially while he's gone, I would ask him, "what do you think is acceptable financially during this S? I would just like to be prepared for when things like the lawn need trimmed or blah blah blah and what you expect me to handle myself?"

I don't know. Something like that. But then, I would think that the MC would give a little assistance on this part. It was her idea for the S anyways.