P.P.S. I meant to add something to this: " If you must have expectations, have the expectation that H will NOT be there for you emotionally, physically, handymanwise, yardmanwise, etc... "
What I meant to add was: "When you aren't expecting those H-ly things NOR feeling entitled to them, then you give him a chance to be truly generous and yourself a chance to truly appreciate his more giving/loving action IF they occur. And, of course, him being nice on one occassion does not give you permission to revive unjustified expectations or a false sense of entitlement. The key here is to really give him a chance to give freely, for he might just choose to do so if he has the freedom and space to figure out the HE wants to for his own reasons, rather than out of guilt, etc..."
