Hi Loretta:

You are lucky that your H is responsive to your boundary setting.

I'm so glad that things are going well.

I think it is great that you are able to state what your needs are and that your H responds positively.

I'm still feeling my way here as far as that goes. My H isn't anywhere near where your H is but I think things are moving in the right direction. I have spent the last 3 years distancing and setting very few boundaries, basically ignoring my H. Now, I am trying to normalize things now that my H seems "sane" again.

We are scheduled to go to Retrouvaille first of November. I am hoping that the weekend will help in re-establishing a "full" relationship.

My H is still sleeping in another room. When I mentioned it this summer he got mad. So I've said nothing since.

I'll wait and see until after Retrouvaille. My H just isn't talking about anything remotely intimate or revealing.

How was it for you when you first started "piecing" your marriage back together?

I'll see if I can do a search for your story.

Thanks for checkin on me.