EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Hon, I did the same thing with the pictures, and I think it was a horrible idea. I did that before the DB and a really good smart friend said it was bad too.

Please put the pictures back if you can. My two year old is screaming right now so I can't think right, but I will try to give you a good reason later.

Listen, what your H is doing, is much more affectionate and compassionate than what my H did with me. He still cares deeply for you, he just thinks he isn't IN love with you anymore, and that OW helped him see that. But guess what. Let's just pretend that he thought he was IN love with the OW, like my H was. let's just say he left me and married her. Well, eventually those strong feelings he had are gonna be gone and at that time he will have to decide, Do I still love this woman? What he is feeling right now, is just a feeling. Love is a choice. It is choosing to make a commitment to someone and to give yourself to that someone.

However, if you start to sulk and feel sorry foryourself and become depressed, then you will loose everything that you have achieved so far. It takes time for him to see your changes and accomplishments and that yes, I may have lost that feeling for you, but I can see that it can come back. Feelings come and go.

okay, sorry I just went off about that. I wanted my H to figure that out so bad... I'm not sure that he really did, but during my DBing and GALing he figured out that he really did want me again and the person I was before wasn't really me. And that's just what your H is going to find out about you. It just takes a lot of time.