EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[*KS*Chick*]

Thanks Stilltryin and Utterly Alone. I am still pretty devastated today. I knew this might be coming and thought I was mentally prepared but obviously not. I have GOT to pull myself together, quit crying, and get a smile back on my face and I don't know how.

H is almost making it harder. Following me around, hugging me, telling me he'll always care about me and I'll always be in his life. Wanted me to go to bed at the same time w/him last night so he could hold me til I fell asleep. This morning I wasn't crying and tried to smile but he kept looking at me and finally said "You look so sad, I'm sorry." ugh.

Any advice on whether I should give in and leave, or make him be the one to go? We both love our house and have put so much into it. It would be physically and financially pretty difficult for me to stay, but I don't want to make this TOO easy on my H either. If he wants to do this, should I make him do all the work (i.e. moving etc.) too??

Then again, I don't want him to come back just because he wants to be back in our house - I want him to come back because he wants to come back to ME. I hate moving though.

I do know if I go I will NOT go anywhere I can't take my dog. That's about all I know right now.

I took down all our family and wedding photos this morning. I couldn't look at them anymore.

Personally I don't think it's fair for him to stay. But if you can't do it financially, I'd suggest selling it and splitting it. See what that does to him?!