Kansha, I found that when something came up that made me burn inside it was time to set another boundry. I would get extremely upset with him for acting the way he did and I new I had to deal with it so that it didnt happen again because if it was to happen again it wasnt acceptable behaviour and wourldnt be tolerated by me. Each time I had to set a boundry he never crossed it again. I was surprised. We are back together just over a year. It has been awhile since I have had to set a boundry life is good. Once in awhile I do get sad thoughts and it is usually because he is starting to backslide and not make our relationship most important. I am finding that is the hardest boundry to maintain because I guess it is a man thing. When I let him know what I need it comes my way. I guess if he wasnt going to come across and make this relationship fun loving exciting I would be the one having the next affair. Just my thoughts, Loretta
