- I think it's okay to ley H know that OW has been driving by the house while he's out and creeping you out - mention Fatal Attraction. Then let it drop. (Make sure YOU look good, calm, a little scared - so SHE looks bad. If you approach it angry, YOU'LL look bad).
- H is getting angry because he's trying desperately not to fall back in love with you. DON'T let him push your buttons, Act As If you don't notice and he's actually being nice to you, or if it gets too bad, do exactly what you did and call him on it.
- you are correct, dinners out are a bad date - too much opportunity to talk, too many chances to stumble into stuff you don't want to talk about. Better is activities that take your mind off of things - rock concerts, scary or thriller movies, rollercoasters - are fun and don't leave a lot of opportunity to talk.
- I would have said "Tough, I like the way my new silky lingerie feels and I'm sleeping in it!"
