EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[NikB]

Quick journaling as a reminder when I need it - I just realized something. This is the first time, EVER, I can remember being happy at home by myself while H is out for the day. Granted it's easier that he's not out with OW. But the old me used to get pretty jealous or clingy, even when he went out with his guy friends. I'd wonder why he'd "rather" be with them than me and was overly dependent on him, and that's one thing I've been working hard to change. Today, I am enjoying some "me" time and I am very content. Yay!! I am proud.

Oh and I have proof that OW is not with them skiiing (before anyone feels the need to smack me upside the head with the DB book, no, I didn't snoop!). I was sitting in our office and had that "watched" feeling. I glanced out front and saw someone in a car parked on the street - guess who??? It was OW!! Our house is set way back from the street and the blinds are mostly closed so I don't think she could see me, but she sat in front of our house for several minutes. I saw her leave, then about 10 minutes later I saw her drive by again slowly and looking this way. Creepy. Is she trying to get up the nerve to talk to me? Waiting to see H's truck back? Waiting for my car to be gone? Confirming H really went skiing without her? hmm. I have no idea. I'm not letting it bother me or change my plans TOO much, but I am rethinking my idea to go Christmas shopping later just in case she's more psycho than I thought and would hurt the house or the dog or something. Weird.