Boy does she sound like a "you know what", but you know what? I bet she didn't have a very good role model growing up, and she's never been clued in to know how to act as a woman, friend, girlfriend, whatever. So, I still admire you for showing pity on her.
I'm not exactly totally suprised at how she responded to your H when he TOLD her what she did wrong. Sometimes when people are told what they are doing wrong it immediately puts them in the defensive and they don't think rashionally, or take the criticism constructively. That was part of my reason for asking questions so that she would need to think more about herself and not become defensive.
Of course, if it were me, I would be totally scared to confront her like that or in anyway for that matter and I'd probably chicken out.
With regards to his moping... I guess the only thing you can do is try things out, and see if they work or not. Make sure you give the new things time. I think her book said it might take a week or two to really notice a change from our 180s.
Definitely continue to not let his mopyness ruin your days! Keep your spirits up! I have faith about your sitch as well.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
