Things are quiet here. It all just depends upon my attitude. I just about all the time, have a good attitude.
If I start collecting injustices regarding my H, it sends my PMA spireling downwards and my anger level sky high.
So I just keep interrupting any negative thought I have and replacing it with a pleasant thought and feeling.
It really does work. I'm getting to that time of the month where I really really have to work extra hard at this. H is pretty consistent. My attitude is pretty consistent also except it does get more challenging when I am PMSing. I caught myself "stewing" while I was in the shower and another time while I was driving.
H said he would be home for dinner last night then never showed.
I asked him, very nicely, thank you, if he might have some unconscious dislike of sitting around the dinner table with his family that he wasn't aware of. I wondered if there was any passive-aggression going on about being home at 6:00 when we eat dinner. He said he loves to be home to eat dinnner with the family and he would try to be more conscious of getting home on time.
I said are you sure that you have nothing going on about dinner because it happens so often and S so looks forward to you being home when you said you would. He appologized several times.
I have to balance my not saying anything to him with a little pressure valve release. I am learning to bring up issues with him in a way that HE doesn't feel defensive or threatened.
He is very sensitive and feels very threatened if I am not careful and don't get the tone and wording just right.
I did great last night. All's well. Now I've got to go interrupt some more of those pesky negative thoughts.
Hugs to all my fellow "Piecers" And hugs to all my friends from MLC or D that might come to visit.
