EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

But you’re right that it’s very out of character, and not in a good way, for me to act nasty to her. I can’t talk to her about it – she would almost certainly twist anything I said and use it against me or to draw H closer.

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I wonder what 180 you could do on her??? My thought is that no one has ever REALLY talked to her about it, but instead have FOUGHT about it. I would wonder asking her, I would like to know what you think is acceptable to behave around a married man? If you were married, would it be acceptable for you for your H to have a woman do the same things? Do you feel uncomfortable around their wives? What do you think is the main reason for you not having any female friends?

I wonder what would happen if you asked your husband to join you in trying to "counsel" her to find out what the H*ll" is wrong with her. haha. Just a thought.

The more I think about it, I will ‘compete’ and definitely take the suggestion from the MC to really be physically close to my H when she’s around. Flirt with him, compliment him, be right there instead of hanging back watching the two of them act like infatuated high schoolers. I won’t act like she’s my friend because she’s not, BUT I’ll be civil and don’t think I’ll do the nasty looks thing. I just don’t know that I have it in me and you’re right, it lessens my character. I’m better than that.

I think that is all right on. I definitely think you "hanging" and flirting with your H more if she's around is a good idea. Just try to make it sincere and not over doing it, or your H will be thinking your just trying to do it to get at her or something.

I think the ski thing is a good thing. I know it is really hard to try and have faith in your H. My H told me soo many lies, it's hard to believe him now. But I'm trying.
And even though he is sad about her not being there, maybe he'll have a great time with the boys! and forget all about it.

okay, gonna read the rest of your posts, so many since last I checked!