EA, being "friends" with OW, and Boundaries Part 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

I think that if you really wanted to do the skiing thing and you were excited about doing it, then you should do it. I know part of the reason for our GALing is to get the notice of our spouses, but we ultimately should be doing these things for ourselves, otherwise these changes won't stick. I've kinda noticed that for myself. I haven't really been GALing much lately. I've kinda been dragged back into the household mom again. But we're trying to get a home equity loan and having the house appraised, so I've been busy.

Soooo, my point is that, if there is something else physical that you would rather do, then do it instead.

I do think that maybe your H is feeling guilty or something because if you DO go skiing, then it's just another reason why he shouldn't have gotten the skiing package thing with OW. So if you go, it'll probably make him feel more like a jerk or something. Not sure.

The whole sleeping thing and Tuesdays. I'm just wondering. I would also think something is going on those days. Maybe those are days that OW doesn't see her BF, or something, I don't know, but it is weird. Also, I would assume that he is having a struggle in his mind. the reason for his strange behavior. My H acted weird sometimes too, He really only showed anger a couple times and that was BEFORE I knew there was anything wrong and before I knew about HER. So, I really hope that your H hasn't done anything physical with OW, but maybe she has lately been stepping over her boundaries even further. I mean they were talking about her doing "less" in front of you, so who knows what she does when your not there already. But remember, even if they have done something, you can still forgive. Your H is still inside there somewhere, and sometimes it's hard for him to get out, but with you being there and doing all that you've learned, he will get thru this much easier!

good luck with your MC.. glad to hear H is so responsive about it! Wish mine was! I still have to wait 3 more weeks before I can see the new phone bill that will help me know if he's still contacting his OW or not.