Well, Saturday was pretty good. H decided that maybe I was right and it wasn't a good idea for OW to go. Good thing... the host's girlfriend pulled me aside to talk to me about the whole situation at one point and she was shocked that H even considered bringing her. She said she would've kicked out OW and had a long talk with me about self esteem. We still had the self esteem/self-respect talk anyway. All stuff I knew, but it was good to hear it repeated. She said I should give H an ultimatem but I told her I wasn't ready for the outcome yet if it didn't go "my" way and I still loved H and wanted to give him time to make the right choice. We were talking quietly and in another room while H was playing pool with his buddies but I could tell he was trying to listen. I think H is pretty annoyed with me for turning them into a couple that OW isn't welcome to hang out with anymore (he struggles to find people we can all hang out with since she ticks off all the wives/girlfriends instantly when she meets them).

Thank you very much for the stop sign suggestion. I "knew" that technique but had forgotten it and will work on implementing it. I don't want to lose more opportunities or drive myself crazy, that's for sure.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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