Nikki, I just caught up with your thread. I have to tell you, I was very upset by it, because the feeling I got from your description of your H the other day, was so much like mine. It was like he was going, and there was nothing you could do to stop it. But, I didn't have DB at the time. I really did try, even without DB, acting 'as if', from a different book. But, I felt him slipping away. What your H did this weekend, was totally different than anything mine did. I'm so happy for you. I hope that he is not in MLC, and is just slightly screwed up, and that you pulled him out of it. Enjoy it, and I sure hope so much for you that he continues to be positive toward your relationship. Im very happy for you. Still Trying is right, be prepared, incase he slips, but, keep your PMA up, now that he's noticed it. So glad he's contacted his old friends too. It's definately a good sign.