Sue - being able to journal is a good thing, to express how we're feeling without having to dump on our spouses. I can feel your frustration with your family asking questions and pumping your sister for information. Very early on I made the decision not to talk to family and friends about our situation. W has been getting conflicting advice from family (her sister) and close friends about what she should do. Remarkably someone advising her has mentioned following guidelines that sound very much like DBing ("fake it till you make it", for example). However W seems determined to go down her own road.

I would take it as a good sign that the questions/doubts are fewer and happening less often. Will they ever fully disappear? Probably not - but it is wonderful that you're seeing your "old" H with some new characteristics that are positive.

We're expecting a crappy weather day in NC - wintery mix from around lunchtime to sometime tomorrow morning. Glad that I don't have a long commute and that the kids' school and daycare are only a few minutes away from the house.

Bob