hey sue regarding your friend who asks how long you'll go with out answers...oh if I could have a dollar for everytime I heard and am still hearing that question... I simply told them...what is a few months if it means I may save my marriage... you sound strong...but I would for now try to back off a bit...you can do things for you that don't require spending money....it's not all about new clothes or day spa's...it's about learning to relax and once again be you...spend time with friends..or make new ones...find a hobby or interest or get back to an old one...all the fun you missed out on in raising your kids...go out and make up for it...live for you and don't worry about h and what he's doing or when he'll call or come home or even when the r talks will come (btw wait for him to initate it's much better that way even if it's negative and even if it's negative that can change just look at my sit) nice that h asked you to the movie...next time at the end of the night just say thank you... (that in itself says you had a good time...no need to get into more as you see h didn't want to respond to your comment about having a good time with him...doesn't mean he didn't also have a good time with you but a simple thank you will make it easier on you both) I get the feeling the ff still lingers in your mind (what they were or are) I don't blame you one bit... I would be thinking the same way...hell I'd be thinking worse....but as you know it is not about her... be h's friend too if it is something that get's to you a bit...stop being his wife go back to being the sue you were with him before marriage, home and kids...stop the worry about him and know that he will be ok and you will be ok no matter what... You will get there sue...just have patience... have a nice day!! LL
