What is next?

[Lillieperl]

I also downloaded just about every podcast on that page, Lou. That whole site is terrific. Thanks again, Martelo.

It's interesting that BB thinks your breathing apparatus makes too much noise but she keeps the radio on.

I remember a year or so ago, some of us <ahem> suggested that you respond with "Oh?" to most of her comments and not get into it with her.

You keep trying to make sense out of her behavior and your premise is that if you can make sense out of it, you will be able to relate to her on a peer level. And that does raise an interesting question: what would it look like if you related to her strictly as a peer, as a complete and total equal. What if you acted toward her as you would toward someone with whom you had no history, no hurt feelings, no expectations...? What if you took all her absurd and asinine comments purely at face value without analysis and just treated her as a sane, logical, emotionally healthy, grownup? What if you acted on the assumption that her comments and actions make perfect sense TO HER, are consistent within her universe, then STOPPED trying to figure out her universe-- stopped trying to crack the code or look for the magic button? Would your behavior be any different from moment to moment?

Edited to add: There is a subtext in many of your posts (well, most of them) about how She is this and She is that, and She doesn't respond, and She makes unreasonable demands, or resists, etc. All of this is absolutely true and would make any sane man pull his hair out (as you showed us). But what good is this attitude doing YOU? Is it helping to point out over and over again how impossible she is being? I'M SURE she's impossible in many ways... *I'M* the one who wants you to run off and have a wild sexual adventure on a cruise ship. But maybe taking a vacation from "BB Is Crazy" thinking would give YOU some relief. When you start to slide into an analysis of how difficult she is, just stop those thoughts and distract yourself. It's worth a try...