If I wanted to have as much drama as you had in your M, I see your point.
Drama/fighting/conflict is a necessary component of feeling validated and attached to your spouse. How you handle it shows you are confidant or insecure.
Cobra has drama/passion in his R, and sex also. There are other R's here on the forum, with close to zero manifested conflict, and lots of couselorize type communication. If you want to kill desire in someone, talk to them like you are their counselor or therapist. Its also a great way of hiding and not exposing yourself emotionally to the other person. There is a reason they employ that kind of communication.
