Quote: what I find strange is that my H never shows any initiative to try to make things better in this way.
IHJ, but doesn't your H "think" he is doing something, taking some initiatives? I don't see BB doing much on her own. She does some of what I ask in her own way but talks like she is the one doing 90% of the R work. Yes she is almost over her shopping addiction but the sex is way down, When I ask a question she asks why I am asking.
Quote: He's watched tapes, read books, and is even in therapy all from my prompting, but on his own he wouldn't have done a thing.
So my question about this is, does he see the reasons why you say the R needs these activities? Why the R might benefit from these activities? Does he think goals/outcomes you have in mind are good for him and you. Does he think he can do them?
BB thinks the goals are good and we need them but she also thinks she is too old for some goals to be reached and not interested in other goals.
Quote: I just don't get it.
Like corri said, You/they can't see it till you/they see it. that is all I can come up with now IHJ.
I went to Office depot and saw a book titled Shut up, Stop Whining, & Get A Life: A Kick-Butt Approach to a Better Life by Larry Winget. The Amazon review is http://www.amazon.com/Shut-Stop-Whining-Get-Life/dp/0471654655 Does anyone have an opinion about Larry Winget or any of his works?
