LL,I know I need to feel what is right, I just needed someone else to tell me that. Maybe because I did feel like something was going on with ff, is why i want to defend him now.Is it wrong to want to protect him from horrible assumtions? We have been around here a long time, know alot of people, and it is sad when you feel like everyone is pointing the nasty finger at you.I should not have to justify anything, and in the end whatever happens to our m, people will still talk and wonder. I am hoping that they will see us happily ever after, but I am not getting into the dream world, I know the chances are either way right now, but i feel sooo good about some parts of my life, I want it all to be good. Sue