if it makes you feel better to defend YOURSELF then do so, but do not make excuses for h. actually I would simply state to anyone who bothers to interfere "well meaning friends and family" that you are handeling the sit just fine and that they do not have all the facts.
understand though that though you can be angry at them if you wish, they are simply meaning to protect you, after all they did see h with ff out and about and now he's moved out. people do make assumptions you yourself did too about ff.
just focus on you and how you feel let others think and feel what they want!! LL
