I am so angry right now, I thought I would come here and vent. It is not at my h, but my family, my sisters are judging the sitch without knowing all of it, and that is no ones bussiness but my h and mine. They say people have been asking them the past few weeks if we are together, as far as I know no one knew anything before our kids found out about the move last week. I do have a distant relative that happens to work for the apartment complex that h rented from,(I did not know she did) so of course blab, blab blab. They are blaming h for everything, as they see him abandoning me and kids, they have friends of friends that have seen h bowling with ff and out afterwards and job functions with ff, so the assume, I am very paranoid about what people think, and I have learned the hard way about judging and gossiping without knowing the true facts. My sister said "If our BIL rented an apartment that I worked at wouldn't you tell your h or me"? I said absoluely not, that is how rumors get started, she knows I work in the court system and I have seen and heard plenty, but would never run and repeat. This I feel is one of the new leaves in my life that I have turned over, as I obviously come from a family of let's blow everything up and repeat. I told sister that Christmas will be different, not because h does not want to be a part of my family, but because I will not be a part of the family that is quick to blame him for everything, and not make him feel welcome. Question, should I tell h my feelings on all this?? I don't want him to think that I have been telling my sister all these bad things about he and ff. Last spring, when I was at a low of what I thought was going on, I told her some of those feelings, and she can not change her mind, now that i feel like I was the one that was wrong about the r between them.I feel better now, it helps to get it out..... Sue
