sue this is the second time I have seen you mention that you assume or rather in your words know that if you give your h the space he moved out to get he will assume you do not care. I don't see that, it is very clear that you do care for your h infact you love your h and that i'm sure he knows. I don't think it nessisary for you to call him and ask for "dates" he is comming to you even if to do laundry and hang out a bit, he is still spending time with you. let the time spent together be on his terms and at his request I do not believe that h will think you don't care if you don't call or ask to do things together infact I think that if you don't but are receptive and happy to hear from him when you do, you will be showing him that you care enough to give him the time and space that he left for. I know it is not easy, but let h have his space, enjoy the space you now have (and yes it is ok to enjoy the lack of tension in the home doesn't mean you don't love him just means you are ok just being you and escaping the drama)
hope you enjoy the weekend, we're expecting snow here! LL
