Had dinner with d and h, he seemed so relaxed, we talked a little about money, as son is going back to school next semester and needed $400. 00 today for classes. I am going to have to relearn how not to spend money. H talked about having to do laundr on Sunday, and I said that I was worried about his white shirts and how I always did them, and wondered if I should offer to do them, d said "let him do his own laundry" right in front of him too!! He said "I was thinking if you wanted to rent the movie that our movie club was doing this month, that he could come over Sunday and watch it together and do his laundry. Alright!!!!That is a small step, he also called me at work today to talk about our checkbook balance(we kept joint, he has his own)ans he works at the bank, so he can look up balance any time.So he still wants to talk and do things. Sat night my nephew plays in a band at local pub, and h wants to go and ff and her mf might come up too, that should go over with my sisters who might be there, and seem convinced that my h is lieing to me about the ff. I don't even want to spend Christmas with this sister, as she has never liked my h anyway, so I asked h if his Mom would switch things around and we could spend it with his family. He said he would ask her.On the way home our d asked me how long this"thing was going to go on for" I said I don't know, he has a one year lease, but can get out of it, I said he needs to find out for himself what he wants or feels like he is missing.She did say that she wanted us to know that she does not hate us or is not "p***** with us, but I can't expect her to be all happy right now, that we through all this on her when she has tests at school and is working long hours at job. I said I was sorry that it came at this time, and that she needs to tell her DAd this, as he thinks she and her b will both hate him.I said we all need time, and that it sucks, but that we don't always know what life is gong to hand us. Bye Sue
