Cool responses you guys, I hope to be able to work on these things, but I was thinking the other day that I have been working too hard on changing things about me that are not me. I went shopping and looked at nice dresses, thinking maybe h will take me to his Christmas party, I tried a black lacy thing on and looked like a hooker! That is not me, but maybe it would turn him on. Do I do things to please me or what I think he might like? I asked him this morning if he wanted me to help him move or to just leave him alone he said kinda sad"I'm going to need someone to help me"My friend at work asked if I was going to do his laundry if he brought it back, I said no, but I bet if he asked I would. I should be strong enough to say, sorry you will have to do it yourself, but am afraid he will take that as not caring. I must be a pleaser, don't want anyone to get mad at me, so I do whatever. Sue
