I just can't believe some of these situations where WAS expects LBS to sit down with the OM/OW and have dinner together. Just unbelievably disrespectful.
Personally, I'd find somewhere else to spend Thanksgiving. Maybe other Family, Friends, etc. Don't let her get away with this. Let her know you disapprove and are not going to cooperate with that arrangement. It's just to bizarre a situation for me to even contemplate.
Hey, I know, go enlist the services of a prostitute and ask your W if it's OK that you have her over for thanksgiving dinner.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
Disrespectful? The little bit of understanding it would apparently take for me to sit down with OP is seen as just what I "should" do, given all she's done for me.
Last year my H wanted to bring his old slapper to our works xmas dinner. Just the thought of having to watch them bill and coo all over each other made me feel dreadful. No way i could eat in those circumstances.
On that occasion, someone else told H it would be 'inappropriate' but in much baser language i believe.
I don't know what he's got planned 4 this year, but i think i will choose not to attend in preference to being made to feel like the travelling circus, surrounded by interested work colleagues wondering when the soup will start flying.
My h knows not to bring ow around me...he doesn't bring her to our sons sporting events because I told him not too. He is respecting me for now but I don't know for how long. It may push him to D me sooner I don't know but to expect me to be around the two of them is insane.
I would definitely be having dinner somewhere else...maybe even alone.
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My sit is different, in that he wouldn't dare do that, but he has time with us and the family and then, leave for evening to make his pit stop at her or her family's place and it hurts, but not as badly as what you have described.
Taking it Day by Day. There's gotta be a light at the end of this dark tunnel.
I'm sorry but that really does take some guts doesn't it! There is ABSOLUTELY no way I'd invite OM to our house for any holiday....or anything period. It's over.....has to be. I can't believe she's being that callous......I am just in awe of people today.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Wow, I can't imagine my W inviting OP over for anything (except maybe for my funeral). I'm thinking the following statement on my part early on may have put her off such ideas, "If I ever see that bitch again I'll rip her heart out and shove it down her throat" (My W is in an A with another woman). I meant it in a good way, of course So, I hope you ate elsewhere, guy! Your W probably thinks that if you two meet you'll become buddies or something. Their thought processes just amaze me sometimes!
