Well, you seemed to have handled a very difficult situation rather well. I know you would like me, us, to tell you all will be right, but we just dont know. Now is the time for you not only to give your husband the space he needs, but to take some for yourself as well. Playing scrabble with your son is good. Keep doing these things. Your sons silence worries me, but I dont know him and trust you to be able to judge his emotional state. Just try to keep an eye out! Its not a game...although it sometimes FEELS like one. You see te trick is (and again I'll use my situation as an example, since it is the only one in which I have ANY expertise...if any at all ) to first of all "act" a certain way, even if you dont feel that way! You see the brain is an easy machine to trick. If you "act" happy...the brain will tell the bady to produce endomorphines that actually make you "feel" happy! This is a hard trick to pull off in the begining! You see your husband and your kids. You see the pain in all their eyes...and you FEEL your own pain. It is very hard to just "be"...let alone to be happy in such circumstances. But that is what you need to do!
So your husband has moved out. Big deal...in my case, I believe it was the right decision, the ONLY way we could possibly have a chance to get where we are now. You have kept up to date with my situation...so you know where I am. Still seperated, but getting bette all the time! Give him his space. He says he still wants to do things with you and the kids. GREAT. When you do, you must become that person he fell in love with all those years ago. You must remember WHAT you used to do/say/think back then.
Quote: The whole time I sat there and let him talk, he turned to me and said "are you going say anything"I said I did not know what to say, I said I understand and support you. I don't think I said what he wanted, but that's part of our problem, I don't know what to say anymore around him
In this instance, I believe you did the right thing. It WAS up to him to talk and explain and say what and how he felt. He has taken a decision and must now bear the full load! You can be there for him, but only as a sympathetic ear. You can not fix him, his feelings, his...anything. And DO NOT TRY to fix anything...sim,ply give him the time and space to fix himself. You must only become that person that attracted him in the first place. You must work on you, and he on himslef.
Quote: I don't think I said what he wanted, but that's part of our problem, I don't know what to say anymore around him, I am afraid if I spill out anger, hurt, it will drive him away, yet does he want me to tell it all.
When you do not know what to say...it is best to say nothing! DO NOT express you rage, anger, sadness! Those are things HE can not help with. It is COMPLETELY up to you to deal with those issues. Just as it is completely up to HIM to deal with his! So tread lightly and when in doubt, say nothing and remove yourself from the situation.
Enjoy your time together...this IS important. The door is still open and with a little luck and MUCH work...you will pull through...one way or the other!
) to first of all "act" a certain way, even if you dont feel that way! You see the brain is an easy machine to trick. 
If you "act" happy...the brain will tell the bady to produce endomorphines that actually make you "feel" happy! This is a hard trick to pull off in the begining! You see your husband and your kids. You see the pain in all their eyes...and you FEEL your own pain. It is very hard to just "be"...let alone to be happy in such circumstances. But that is what you need to do!
