You are very understanding and supportive of your H. Doesn't that come from love? You are giving your H what he needs right now! ... the support of being his best friend. If you continue to be the kind of friend to him that he wants to be to his friends, he will come to realized the both of you do have a common bond.
Sue, you have seen on this board how falling apart is so counterproductive in achieving what you want. Consider yourself forutunate that you have the inner strength to avoid that. Act "as-if" your strength is a gift you are willing to lend to your H whenever he may need it,then he will not preceive it as you being disinterested.
