I'm so sorry you have to go through a separation too, but I think of it as a new beginning for me. We were not getting anywhere the was we were. We were spinning our wheels and I was getting sicker by the day with anxiety and worry. Now I feel spme peace. He has left the door open fro us. He says he still wants to talk and go out sometimes. That part reminds me of when we were separated last time, but I know it will be diffferent this time. At least for me. He found out I went out with a high school friend and was not happy about it. I told him he was not my type and we would not be seeing each other again on a opne to one basis which is true. It felt good to have him care. I told him we could start again as friends-he seemed to like that idea. I told him to call me when he wanted to and he said he would be. Our son seems happier too without the tension here. I will be lonely and miss him but I also ffel it is a bew beginning for me. I don't know what the future holds for us-I hope we end up together, but for right now I will take it one day at a time and tha tis waht you need to do also. Give him his time and space. I think they will find out what they really want so much faster that way. If I'm not around he can;t blame his unhappiness on me. He will have to look within himself. I know he is going through MLC and has to find his own way. I will be on the sidelines when and if he wants or needs me but I am not goin gto pursue him or put my life on hold for him. He will have to see that Iam growing as a person which is what he wanted allalong but I was too wrapped up in "us". I hope you use this time for yourself. IT sounds like he is leaving the door open fro the two of you also. Let him do what he needs to do and you do what you need to do for you and things jsut might work out. I wish you the very best and lets keep each other company through this ok? We'll be fine. Rachael
