Morning, went to football game with ff and it was fine, went out to eat after, and of course h and her smoke, but h is very respectful not to blow it in my face, but she does not even think about that. They talked about stuff at work and I felt kinda left out, but then h would kinda explain who they were talking about. She asked him to come over today and fix a light for her and he had told me earlier that he was going to, and that is ok with me,I am happy that he thought to tell me , yet I can't expect him to tell me every time she calls and needs him to come by or every time she calls him to talk. That is where the controlling comes in, and that it what he is bitter about. Me always having to know. I have not worded it right. When he is a home and she calls of course I know, when she needs him to come over I know, it's when he's not home, I should not expect him to call and say I am going over there, orshe called me on my cell.He wants the freedom to do these things without approval or whatever, and he should be able to, it's just that in 23 yrs he never did any of that, I alwys knew where he was, so that is what I am trying to improve. Now that I have rambled about nothing!! See ya Sue
