Andy, thank you, you really pointed some good things out to me, except where you said I feel like I am be displaced by hre, I feel like I am going to be replaced by her. When my thoughts wander to the negative of him leaving, I feel like he will rely on her more, see her more, and she will take every chance she can to get him. You know I was thinking that he remembers these things I ahve said about being like his dad etc..well years ago when we were first married and had I was talking with his Mom and sister-in-laws, we were talking about affairs and his Mom said most all men have them, I did not agree with her, and said that i hope that a man or woman would end the marriage first, before having an affair. I think somewhere along the way i told h about that conversation, so now i think, is this his way out, push me away slowly, move out, get d, then carry on with her? I can't help these feelings, tell me I am not totaly crazy for having them. Yet he seems so sincere in what he said about it not meaning m is over . What has happened to my trust for him? If I can't rebuild that, then there won't be a m.I feel like I have d'b'd so hard these 5 months, for what?He has put no effort in it.What else can I do?
I also have a problem that he has not talked to our kids, I don't want him springing something on them a few days ahead of time. I have a closer relationship with them, so i thought i would tell them, but thought nope, he has to. They know she calls here and he goes over there alot, so are they going to assume what everyone else is going to??? We live in a smaller town, knwo lots of people and I am so afraid people are going to whisper, and we know they do. I am quick to judge, but have learned that it is not fair to assume things that you really don't know the facts about. I will continue to build my pma, and go on as if. Sue
