I just wanted to mention after reading some of the other posts - some really good points were made, especially about the timing of it all. I approached the question assuming that the your current relationship had started long after his former marriage was over. If not - I agree that you should probably get out. Individual counseling may help you deal with the emotions too.
In any case - the suggestions I made about doing something for yourself and "getting a life" as described in the DR/DB books apply completely. They are really good tips for anyone anytime, as we can always take better care of ourselves.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
