LL, thank you so much for some words,any words that help me see that this is not the end. We had another talk and he told me that it does not mean the end, he just needs some of his own space. He said we could still do things with our friends together, even said if we went out to a movie and he decided to stay the night, that it did not mean everything was ok, and if he decided that he needed to go back to his own place it would not mean that things were bad. I asked him if he thought he was depressed, but he did nothink so. A close friend at church asked him if he was ok, as you can tell he is stressed, he told her some of the sitch. I am so glad he finally has other people to talk to, other than "her". Boy I sure went from Fri to Sun all mixed up, I thought for sure the friend going away was the answer to my prayer, but as we talked i see that things were changing and she did not help, but that was not the only problem. Funny thing is I feel a peace that he will get the space and time to heal, and hopefully decide that we are worth the work of putting it back. We still have not said anything to our kids,I think He will have to do it, I talk more with them, but I am not going to do this for him. I also mentioned how we could aford this, and I can't pay for the house, taxes, etc.. on my money, and since the kids are still at home, we do more or less still support them, and since they are both over 18, my sister told me he really could just not pay anything. i said that to him, and he said he would not do that, and that I was talking too far in the future, that again, this does not mean it will be permanent. told him that made me feel better that he is not thinking that it is over over. Again, thank you so much for the encouragement. I am so greatful for this place to "talk". Sue
