Help, just when I thought things maybe were looking up, in reality they are not. H went to store with me this morning(which he usually does not)he is usually not home on Sat. morning. Anyway on the way he started talking, and told me that he was feeling tense about being at home again, just as he did last spring. He said he talked to our pastor this week, and one thing she told him wass that no matter what he did he had to do it because it is what he wants and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.He really has this thing about being on his own. We sat and talked, and for the first time since his Dad died, He had tears streaming down his face.We talked about the friend, and he said that I would understand the friendship better if I knew the whole story about her and her h, but that he promised her he would not tell. He said I have told you all along that there has never been anything between us, and last spring, when I accused him of something that it hurt him. he also said that in the past I have siad he is getting like his father, and that I don't want our marriage to be like his folks, and those things have hurt him also.Soo, what do I do???He said sometimes when he is home, he doesn't know what I am going to say or do, so he is on edge.I have not pursued any r talks, I thought I had backed off, left him alone to think through things these past months. He says whatever we are doing is not working, we have fun with friends and things like that but when we are alone, nothing. I told him that I am afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing, so I don't do anything. I think he knows that i don't believe you can work on a marriage, when you are seperated, yet I have read many threads here where you are succeeding.Our c said it is better if you are together and work on things. He has alot of hurt and probably anger built up, so do I let him go. Silly question, I know I can't keep him here. I am so afraid for our kids, even though they are 20 and 22, they are at home, and I feel like it will crush them, yet they must sense things aren't right. I also worry that financially I will not be ok, which I won't, we can"t afford 2 households. Boy those are really reasons to stay together. But are concerns. I don't know where to start over from here.
