hoping, I have not read through your whole thread but see a bit of similarity, at least with the ow "friend" thing, diff being h had to be seen by a family friend of mine taking her to a doctors apt (cancer) before he let me know of "friendship" she is a customer so same as co-worker. I did not believe it to be just a friendship and h felt sorry for not letting me know of the friendship, alot of alienation of affection had been going on and not spending time together etc, so I assumed affair. he tried to work on m, was spending time with me being physical etc, i continued to badger him about ow made him end the friendship called ow (she called me first to appologize for having him drive her to appt) eventually three month of this and h moved out,, two month later says he wants d, loves me isn't in love with me. i tell a friend of his who talks to him and h tells friend of how he "connects" with this woman, can be himself etc. h still claiming ow to just be friend. i find db... get a life and accept that h is leaving.. learn that ow plans to d her h. my h tells me he fell in love with ow. well eventually six months after walking out the door, h wants to come home. still claims they were just friends a friend he had feelings for, still claims no pa (he couldn't?? whatever that means) don't know why I am rambling on your thread but wanted to relate to the "friend" bit. yes it is possible for them to be just friends as I still assume my h was with this woman however friends like these seem more like a ea to me and something to watch. I made the poss mistake of pushing it too far but it was worth it for me cause h now knows she has to go (knows but will he be able?) anyway I feel for you in your sit. LL
