H asked me if ok that she come over and watch football on Sunday, I said ok. She came, already had too much to drink, had more here, but we were all ok. Sometimes I think they are really good at hiding something, or I have really been CRAZY all these months for thinking that this is more then the friendship that he has told me all along. I did tell him nicely later that his going out after work does not bother me, but that it was with just her did, and for 5 hrs drinking. I said How can you contribute to her problem? He said he can't make her quit, she has to want to do it on her own. He did not seem mad about the talk, so I did not push for anymore. I do feel like I deserve to know where he stands on the commitment to our M, but I am holding back and not going to start throwing questions left and right.
I still don't understand why he lost all his affection for me, and as he said in c , he wasn't sure either. In my mind that spells affair, guilt, but I have read others posts, and it does not always mean that. He did start a blood pressure medication in the spring, and I have read that sometimes they can affect the sex drive, but it all stopped before he started those.I have never suggested that to him, I continue to be happy for myself, and it is showing slowly with him. We laugh together more, he seems to come home alittle earlier from evening church job. He is on bowling league with her, and they stay out till at least midnight or later each week, last night he was home at 10:30!! I did not say a word, except "HI" Before I would have drilled him why he was home early, etc... We refinanced our home last week, is that a sign that he is staying in the M????Or for a split second I thought maybe he is setting it up so if we do sep, he will be able to afford house alone, (we paid off car, credit cards) As I have learned here, if that is his plan, and I have no reason right now to believe that, I have to survive. Sue
