Kaw, maybe you are right, except I am kinda the quiet type, she's the clingy, sexy, slutty type, and maybe my h likes that right now. I can change alot of things about myself for the better, but I can't change my personality and become some hot babe that a middle aged man is looking for. I also don't think h really wants that, but as long as she is available....Oh well, there is a reason why she is going through d #2 and I still have #1! I'll bet the "others" in these sitchs really never find the true meaning of love, commitment, respect. See ya Sue