Thanks (again) for the wise words. I know that dbing is now a lifetime thing.I think there should be some marriage 101 classes for all newly married people, we can learn everything else, but some wise tools at the beginning and learning how to deal with years into it, would be beneficial. I work in the court system, with divorces, and it is sooooo sad to see these m ending, when most of them have done nothing to try and save it. There is so much anger and hurt. Till late Sue