Sue-Its hard to think clearly when your obsessing. Ask anyone, I'm the Queen of it here, but for good reason. My H had an affair for over 2 yrs. I really beleive it is over now but it has taken me 5 months since I found out to stop TOTALLY obsessing about it. All we do is get ourselves all worked up over something we have NO control over, and hten act out making things worse. I have learned alot more control now, but I still get going every once in a while. I come herer to post ASAP to get some help and get my mind to at least a place where I won't go for his juggler. I have learned to keep quiet. You are right. We can screw everything up with just one slip up. We CAN'T let that happen. My H is watching me I know to see if I've really changed. I think he's finally starting to believe I have. I'M finally starting to believe I have! Good luck, Rachael
