Thanks Kaw-that helped me too-I'm needing a little help today as I too feel we are standing at a standstill of sorts. I guess I feel the need for an OR talk-we have not had one for a long time except in counceling and then it was not really a "talk" about the A and our future. I need reassured by him about our future. How do you bring that up without initiating an OR talk, and how do you know if your ready for that OR talk? Aren't we suppose to wait for them to initiate them, or talk to us when they are ready? I could just see my H cringe if I started talking about it. WE were intimant last night and I was looking in his eyes and I thought he was going to say something to me to reassure me he is ALL the way back. Not "ILY", he always says that, but something about the OW to reassure me that she has no part in his life anymmore. He has got to know I need to hear that! Rachael
