(((((((Liz))))))))
Honey, this is just a bad patch right now.
It will get better.

Doesn't it always seem like when it rains, it pours.
I know exactly how you are feeling and it is time to be strong, stronger then before.

Do NOT call your ExH for ANYTHING except life and death emergencies.

Right now he just doesn't care and all that happens is that he brings you further down into the pit, and makes you depressed.

I do not know what arrangements you have for visitation or child support, but this must be done through a neutral party.

No coming to your home, or stopping by to visit.
Don't make any excuses Liz, you can always meet him outside to pick up and drop off S4.

Don't worry about Christmas or anything else that he should be a part of, right now he is in total selfish mode and you need to leave him totally alone.

Liz, all of your efforts to try and be kind to him and been turned around to slap you in the face.
You don't have to be a bitch either, but you do need to completely detach from this man.

Let him see what life is truly like without you in it.

So let me reiterate...
NO phone calls.
NO texts.
NO emails.

The only contact must be according to whatever court order you do have regarding S4, and that is a business arrangement.

If he doesn't contact you regarding his visit, document it and keep records.
If he doesn't give you money, contact the CSA not H.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.