Thanks for stopping by, trying. Sorry it has taken me so long to stop by.... I have had a lot of people say this to me but I've read a little about "rebound" relationships and I'm not sure. I thought in order for it to be a rebound, they would have to not be over their previous relationships. I am not totally sure on this. I have not read much on it. A rebound helps you heal over the loss of a relationship. So, I could easily find myself in a rebound relationship if I don't give myself time to heal naturally. I hope you don't do this. I hope you give yourself time to come to terms with everything. You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders. But since they are over their previous relationships, You don't know this for sure!!!! I'm not sure that it counts as a rebound. Certainly, they rushed into things...and they didn't spend any quality time alone, working on themselves. That much is true. They will regret this. They jumped right into something before they were sure of what they really wanted. They only think they want each other. It is just a security blanket for each of them. But I don't think my xH still has any feelings for me at all. He's made it pretty clear (through action and words) that he wants nothing to do with me. Don't give up so easily. My H has told me things like that. He has told me things that have upset me and then a couple days later acted like he never said them. In one sentence he tells me that we should cut the strings and move on with our lives and that he can't be friends with me until we do this. Then in the next sentence he tells me that we can spend the holidays together as a family. They dont know what they want. Right now, they think they know but when it comes down to it they are confused. Your H had OW to push him into going for the divorce but it will backfire on her when your H wakes up from whatever it is he is going thru. He will realize it was a total mistake. He will keep in contact with you (at a minimum) to keep you hanging so he has that security to come back to. This is what I think my H does. He will say he wants out but has not done anything to prove it. He hasn't filed or even seen a lawyer. If I agree about this stuff, he backs down. Just because your H did file and you are divorced, doesn't mean it is over. Wait til he doesn't want to listen to the OW anymore. It seems she pushed him into the divorce and now he is trying to run her life about her XH and kids. They are 2 people that want to be in charge of the other. It won't last. Don't listen to what he says anymore. You don't have to. You are not married to him so he can't run your life. Get out and show him that you are moving on and see how fast he is at your doorstep. Right now he knows you are sitting home and wanting him back. Show him a different you. Show him one that he will hate leaving behind. Don't do this for him, do it for yourself.
