Quote: H has smoked every day for more than twenty years. I believe it has caused his MLC to be worse than normal. I do know that it has contributed to his memory issues. He tells me I said and did things that I know I didn't ever say or do.
My xH smoked every single day for the last 10 years, at least. He smoked a bowl upon waking up, nursed a few throughout the day, and then had several when he got home from work until he went to bed. That's why it's so hard for me to imagine that he's completely quit for OW. He claims it was easy, that he didn't have any trouble at all -- but throughout the years, he would try and never could go without it for very long (maybe a day or two). He says now that I "enabled" him, that's why he couldn't ever quit.
My xH has memory issues, too. He forgets things he's told me, things we've talked about, dates, names, etc. He has a poor sense of time, too. A month will pass and he'll act like it's only been a few days. I don't know if that's from the weed or if it's something else.
In this situation, OW is *not* fine with it. She's told him that he cannot smoke pot and be in her life. She essentially gave him an ultimatum. So, it'll be interesting to see how long it lasts. Maybe he really can quit that easily...given the right inspiration. He said that he doesn't need it anymore. It makes me feel sad that he needed it to maintain his sanity when we were together, but now that he's got OW he doesn't need it. I think it's because she's his new drug.
