I wanna keep this short and to the poing b/c I could go on for hours about what you have just posted.
Is it possible that he will change that much for her? Is it possible that I'm the reason that he couldn't do any of those things to better himself?
Was your H different when you first met him than he was 2 or 3 years later? I bet he was. When guys find someone they want to be with no matter how damaged that man may be. He will make changes to try and make himself be the person that his new interest wants him to be. Those changes won't stick b/c we as men don't make a concious effort to make them stick. We don't make those changes until we realize that those changes need to be made and even then it takes practice.
You cannot ever hold someone back from being someone they want to be. It's not possible. EVER. Don't place any blame on yourself for his actions. If it is possible for you to be responsible for his actions, then I'll start blaming you for mine also!
Liz you are a wonderful person and a great mother. Don't ever forget that.
M-35 going on 15 D-8 S- 3 yrs ex-CL(w)- 30
D over one year
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams "Just Be"
