MLC, deluxe!!!!! He is putting on an act and how long do you think that will last. All of his BS is the biggest load of crap I have ever heard. And it is coming from the *itch that got involved in an inappropriate R with your H and lost her family as well. Don't you think she is trying to convince her X that what she did was justified and what a wonderful catch she has.
OW has to delude into thinking that is all true because otherwise she looks like a big fat fool for supporting a man that has no desire to work and help her out.
You don't want him like that....he is acting....when the curtain comes down he is still the screwed up mess he was with you.
IF he ever becomes that better man that I don't doubt he would like to become (just because no one wants to be a loser), he will drop her like a hot rock because she has NO morals and no backbone. She is so desparate that she has to pay someone to stay with her.
Your H sounds like he is trying to mask depression with new clothes, cologne, and other material things. It won't work for long. Just stop busting his chops, try to be a friend as much as possible, and take care of you, get a life, and as they keep telling me, go on as if you and H will not be reconciling. You might be surprised and his reaction when he feels he can't have the best of both worlds....He still has a long way to go to get through his problems.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
