I for one - think you did very well - magnificent even. You set the boundaries for your H. You reminded him of the reality that this is D and that he needs time with his S. You held your own and you appeared to do it with style and a sense of calmness about you. You did well.
Regarding S and his location. You have every right to know where your S is staying and with who. Again- you did well to establish this boundary.
Regarind H living with OW. I tend to agree with Sherman on this one. I think my own sitch would move faster - and I mean W would start having problems with OM - if she jumped right in. The only reason she isn't is because she thinks she is not doing anything wrong right now and doesn't want anyone to know about OM - she is embarrassed (I would be embarrassed to be with this OM too ). She wants her family to think that she didn't start anything with him until after our D was final. So for you, the fact that your D is final and a week later moves in - reality will smack him upside the head like a giant rock! Believe it. It is going to happen. It is just a matter of when.
Continue to detach from it as much as you can. You have to take care of your S and you are doing a great job of this. Your S is lucky to have a mom like you in his life. One that cares so much for him - someday he will thank you so much for what you did for him now.
). She wants her family to think that she didn't start anything with him until after our D was final. So for you, the fact that your D is final and a week later moves in - reality will smack him upside the head like a giant rock! Believe it. It is going to happen. It is just a matter of when.
