love never fails

[Sherman333]

I just found out that my xH is now living with OW.
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I am feeling so hurt that he's already moved in with her. I can't believe it. We haven't even been divorced a week and he's already moving in with her? Is it that serious? Is it that special? I just feel sick to my stomach

Ah Liz, I know how much this must hurt. ((((Lizemba)))). I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish you lived closer - We'd get you out with everyone.

The more time they spend with one another the faster things progress for them. So there might be some benefits yet out of this development.

I told him I was sorry but that I was away from home and couldn't take S4 back. He got irritated and started to hang up. I reminded him that this is the situation HE wanted (divorce) and that he needed to be a single parent when he had S4, just like I had to be a single parent the rest of the time.

Way to go. You did awesome on this. This is the situation your exH created, so he needs to deal with it and not just when it's convinient for him.

I felt really guilty about my response, but I think I did the right thing. I just feel bad for S4.

I think all you can do is just make sure S4 knows how much you love him and that none of this is his fault. From there its your exH's responsibility to do the same. If the ex chooses not to, then its out of your hands.

I said that it wasn't any of my business where he lives, but that I have a right to know where S4 is staying when he visits. I said, "You need to give me an address where you and S4 will be staying next visitation or I won't let you take him."

This is really good too. You let the ex know what's expected of him. That's he's still going to have responsibilities regardless of what he is doing.

I think you're doing really well in spite of the situation.

I know it's hard to deal with, but it does get better. I promise.