I just found out that my xH is now living with OW. I'll get to that in a minute.
My xH called me last night and told me that S4 was wanting to come home. He said, "He's being really difficult, I can't deal with this," and I told him I was sorry but that I was away from home and couldn't take S4 back. He got irritated and started to hang up. I reminded him that this is the situation HE wanted (divorce) and that he needed to be a single parent when he had S4, just like I had to be a single parent the rest of the time. He put S4 on the phone and we talked a bit. He was really upset and wanted to come home. I told him he needed to stay with his dad and that he would see me in the morning. He calmed down a little, but not much. My xH got back on the phone and said, "Just forget it, I'll take care of it," in a really snotty tone. I told him to call if S4 wanted to talk to me again and he said, "Whatever," or something like that and hung up.
I felt really guilty about my response, but I think I did the right thing. I just feel bad for S4.
Anyhow, so this morning I wake up and see that my xH called early and left a message: "S4 has an earache and wants to come home. I gave him Motrin and he feels better now, but he's still really irritable and wants to be with you, so I'm packing his bags and I want to bring him home soon. Call me when you wake up."
He called back an hour later and didn't leave a message. I waited a while and called him. I asked how S4 was and he said he was better, but still being cranky. I told him that I thought he should go ahead and keep him for the rest of the day and bring him home as planned (later in the afternoon/evening). He got mad and said something about how S4 misses me and he wants to come home. He was trying to make me feel guilty and it worked. I decided to agree because S4 has an earache and if he's not feeling well I know he'd rather be at home. So, I told my xH to bring him home in an hour or so.
He pulled up in his truck. I went out to get S4 and noticed his truck was working. He said "the elves" fixed it. I just laughed a little and nodded. I'm sure OW had it repaired. He came inside the apartment and sat down to tell me about S4's ear problem. We also discussed Christmas visitation. Then he said something about how he was irritated that I don't ever answer his calls and I said that if he needs something specific, he should leave a message and I will call him back. He rolled his eyes and just said, "Whatever."
After he left, S4 immediately said, "Daddy said I'm not supposed to talk about OW anymore," and I said, "Oh really?" I asked if my xH was mean to him (because I know that he can be pissy when S4 is being a terror) and he said, "Yes," and I asked if OW was around when that was happening and he said, "Yes," and then added, "Daddy lives with OW now. SS14 has his own room." He told me a few other details, but I changed the subject because it was too upsetting.
I thought about it a bit and then called my xH. I asked him if he was living with Joe. He said, "I'm not living anywhere. I'm homeless. I've just been bouncing around from friend to friend." I said, "David says you're living with OW now," and he said, "I'm not living with her; I'm just staying there temporarily. I can't afford my own place anymore." He said that he just keeps his stuff there at OW's place because he has nowhere else to put it. I said that it wasn't any of my business where he lives, but that I have a right to know where S4 is staying when he visits. I said, "You need to give me an address where you and S4 will be staying next visitation or I won't let you take him." He got a little irritated about it, but agreed and said, "I don't even know where I'll be in two weeks," or something like that. I just reiterated what I said and he said, "Fine!" and hung up on me.
I am feeling so hurt that he's already moved in with her. I can't believe it. We haven't even been divorced a week and he's already moving in with her? Is it that serious? Is it that special? I just feel sick to my stomach.
