Quote: want2bmarried wrote: I wondered why you would be with a guy like that? You clearly deserve someone so much better.
Well, that's a good question and one I wish I could answer. I ask myself that constantly. The truth is that there are many things I do love about him that haven't been detailed here. Does the good outweigh the bad? Not really, and that's why I know that he is not "right" for me at this moment in time. But I see his potential, I have experienced what it is like to be loved by him, I have felt like we were right for each other...and those things, along with our children and our history together (and my commitment to him) make me feel connected to him in a way that transcends the issues we face.
Quote: want2bmarried wrote: Does the OW have any money? Is she helping him? Guys that are users and manipulators will gravitate towards that kind of woman to help them.
Yes, she has money. When last my xH and I spoke about it, he said that "no one was helping him," so I take that to mean she isn't helping him financially right now. However, it appears he's driving her vehicle, so she's helping a bit.
It's interesting that this comes up, because it's true that my xH gravitates toward this kind of woman (with the exception of me). Previous affairs were with women who had money...and yet, he ended those relationships of his own volition after a short period of time. Maybe this time is different (he says it is). I guess we'll see.
Quote: Santhony wrote: He needs someone to be agitated with still. That person is you.
Yes, I think that's probably true. I just wonder when the OW will start to receive his agitation.
Quote: If the R with the OW falls apart, unless you hear from someone else - you will probably be the last to know. He doesn't want to be wrong and certainly doesn't want you to be right.
Yea, I figured this would be the case. He's clearly showing me that things aren't going well in his life in a financial way, but there's been no indication of how things are with the OW.
